90 Day Fiance’: Big Ed Gives Us More Details About the Shower Scene With Rose’s Dad Than We Ever Wanted to Know

This season of 90 Day Fiance has had a number of cringeworthy moments but no cast member has made fans as uncomfortable as Big Ed Brown. From the very beginning, fans have been skeptical about his relationship with Rose. Not only is she younger than his child, but Brown also seems to have done no research on the Philipines or Filipino culture before going there to meet her. As he met her family and saw where she lived, he became increasingly insensitive to her culture and the poverty that she lived in.

All of this came to a head in the most awkward scene in 90 Day history when Brown had to shower with Rose’s father.

How did Big Ed feel about Rose’s living conditions?

Before visiting Rose, Brown knew that she had no money, but apparently he was unaware of how Rose was living.

“Oh my god,” Brown told Entertainment Tonight when asked about his stay in the Philipines. “The conditions were unanticipated. I knew going in that it wasn’t going to be a pleasant experience, but I didn’t expect it to be as bad as it was. There was, like, a monsoon and the electricity went out, and it pretty much rained on me, like, ‘drip drip,’ all night long.”

Not only was Brown uncomfortable there, but he was also worried about his safety.

“There’s exposed wires everywhere and the water was dripping inside, and the electricity kept coming on and going off, so that fan would go on and off, so, that scared me,” he said. “So, I was worried about getting electrocuted. I was getting bit by mosquitoes and my co-worker said they have mosquitoes that can fly and of course, they didn’t have any windows, and so all of that was weighing on my mind. I was just miserable.”

What was showering with Rose’s father like?

In most relationships, showering with your potential father-in-law never comes up in conversation. But Brown had to do just that when he stayed with Rose’s family.

“When I woke up in the morning, it looked like a thousand bullet holes were in the ceiling because the light was shining through, so that was my experience,” he told the outlet. “I wake up, and I’m already miserable and then I’m like, ‘I need to go take a bath.’ I didn’t even know where the bath was … and then sure enough, we’re going by her dad’s room and then he’s like, ‘Hey, I want to bathe with you.’ I’m like, ‘OK.’ So we walk another six feet to this 50-gallon drum of water and hence the bath scene with her dad. I’m dropping the soap, it’s surreal. Rose is sitting there hosing me off. It is freaking freezing, the water was actually really, really cold.”

The shower scene wasn’t the only time that Brown questioned Filipino cleaning tactics. Earlier in the season, he confronted Rose about having hairy legs and asked her to shave. Rose looked shocked by his request but eventually conceded after he said that if she didn’t shave her legs, she would have to give him a kiss.