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During the current season of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?, Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa have been constantly battling over money. Asuelu can’t seem to hold down a full-time job to support his wife and kids. At the same time, his Samoan family has declared they have a right to his earnings. Kalani’s parents have moved in to help and are witnessing everything first-hand. Now, fans are wondering how Kalani’s dad feels about the drama with Asuelu’s family.

Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa smiling together in a desert
’90 Day Fiancé’ stars Kalani Faagata and Asuelu Pulaa | kalanifaagata via Instagram

The ’90 Day Fiancé’ star is not meeting his family’s expectations

During a recent episode, Asuelu and Kalani traveled to Washington to see his mom and sisters. When they arrived, Asuelu revealed that he brought them gifts. But, Asuelu’s mom shocked fans when she bluntly asked how much money he had for her.

She had demanded that he bring $1,000. But, since Asuelu is only working part-time, he told them he could only afford to bring $100. This angered and annoyed his mom and sisters. But, as Screen Rant points out, it made many viewers extremely uncomfortable.

“Where is your mind?” asked his mother. She is convinced that Kalani’s American family is financially well-off. In her eyes, Kalani’s parents can take care of the two children. And, this should free up enough cash for Asuelu to send his mother the money she asks for.

This situation may be confusing for some fans. But, it turns out that this conflict is rooted in cultural differences.

Young adults take care of their parents financially in Samoan culture

During the episode, Asuelu’s sister reminded him that in their culture it is his responsibility to take care of his mother.

“Back home, we gotta put our family first,” she told her brother. “No matter we’re married, we’re supposed to take care of them and send money no matter what.”

Samoa News explains that a man receives a matai title around the age of 40 and retires. It’s a matter of honor for elders to retire and be taken care of by their children, especially sons. When adult children do not take care of their parents, it is considered shameful.

Kalani’s dad, Low, is also from Samoa. It’s not clear what he does for a living, but he does seem to be doing pretty well. As Distractify noted, Low appears to have homes in several different states. But, he and his wife Lisa recently moved in with Kalani and Asuelu to help them with their kids.

’90 Day Fiancé’ fans want to know what Low thinks about Asuelu’s family?

Many 90 Day Fiancé have voiced their support of Low’s no-nonsense approach to his son-in-law. Despite the fact that the two men have the same cultural heritage, their approach to money, gender roles, and family appears very different.

Low steps in and calls out Asuelu when he crosses the line, and fans are here for it. They have been vocal on social media about how much they love Low. He does not appear to have the Samoan “sense of entitlement” that is apparent in Asuelu’s family. Instead, he has taken the opposite approach and moved in with his own child and grandchildren to help support them.

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Will Low try to explain the Samoan culture to his daughter? Would he ever consider confronting Asuelu’s family about their money demands?

Fans will have to wait and find out when new episodes of 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After? air Sunday nights on TLC.