’90 Day Fiancé’: Tania Breaks Down in Tears, Fights Explosively With Syngin in Front of His Family in New Sneak Peek—’I’m Not Gonna Be Married if It’s Like This’
90 Day Fiancé stars Tania Maduro and Syngin Colchester had a rocky start to their marriage, to say the least, after getting married in 2019. Their relationship was already tumultuous, but Tania’s car accident and serious injuries—which forced her to quit work and remain in her home state of Connecticut in order to go to physical therapy—put even more of a strain on the less-than-blissful newlyweds.
In a new sneak peek of an upcoming episode of TLC’s 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After, Tania and Syngin traveled back to Syngin’s home country of South Africa to visit his brother, Dylan Colchester, while he recovered from a blood clot in his lung. But their trip quickly took an uncomfortable turn when the couple argued bitterly, with Tania breaking down in tears, in front of Syngin’s family.
Syngin announced that he wanted to buy land in South Africa
A few days after Syngin and Tania arrived in South Africa, they sat down for a braai, or South African barbecue, with Syngin’s family—including his parents, sister, and brother.
Almost immediately, Syngin admitted that he sometimes wondered why he’d moved to the U.S. at all. And now, back in his home country, the nostalgia was hitting him hard.
“I was homesick before coming back to South Africa,” Syngin told 90 Day Fiancé producers, “and then after last night, out with my friends, that’s when I really realized I feel like I’m missing out on life living in America.”
Syngin told his family that he was even considering buying land in South Africa during the trip—and not returning to the U.S. at all, or anytime soon.
“It really does make you think if being America is the right thing for me right now,” he confessed.
Tania and Syngin argued about having kids in the future
Tania was stricken by the news, and she told Syngin’s family that she didn’t want to raise her children in their home country.
“The only thing I’ve ever said is, I don’t want to raise my kid in South Africa,” the 90 Day Fiancé star said. “It’s beautiful. It’s great. But there’s a lot of racism. There’s a lot of poverty.”
Tania also explained that she wanted her future kids to live in a more diverse community. “If we’re gonna have kids—” she began.
But Syngin cut Tania off impatiently and reminded her that he wasn’t even sure he wanted children at all.
“Who says that’s even gonna happen?” he asked her.
Annoyed, his wife asked him to “bring it down a notch.” But Syngin didn’t back down.
“I know we’re married, but honesty is a big thing in a relationship,” the 90 Day Fiancé star pointed out to Tania. “I’m saying what’s real.”
As for Tania, she told 90 Day Fiancé producers that she felt frustrated by Syngin’s sudden expression of doubts about children.
“Syngin always knew that kids were in my plan,” Tania pointed out, “and it wasn’t until he got to the States that he was more like, ‘Actually, I don’t even know if I really want kids.’”
Tania complained that Syngin didn’t have enough ‘structure’ in his life and didn’t put in enough effort
Syngin’s family defended his uncertainty, reminding Tania that he needed some time in the U.S. to find his passions and make his own way.
“You must remember, Tania, Syngin ain’t in his place,” Syngin’s dad reminded his daughter-in-law. “He ain’t with his family. He needs a little bit of finding his feet.”
But Tania’s eyes filled with tears, and she began to cry as she complained that Syngin hadn’t been able to find work or a career. His lack of direction often left her feeling lost and unnerved.
“I’m beyond open to that,” the 90 Day Fiancé star told her father-in-law. “But I also need a little bit of seriousness.” Tania added that, if he was interested in “eight different careers,” he should try a few to start.
Tania even claimed that she felt “taken advantage of” by Syngin due to his lack of action and mixed messages.
“You know, there were definitely times when I started feeling taken advantage of by Syngin,” the 90 Day Fiancé star admitted. “I think it’s unfair of Syngin to get married if he had no plans on staying in America…I don’t want empty promises.”
But Syngin told Tania that he wasn’t about to be tied down or under any obligations—period.
“I’ve tried so much s*it in my life,” the 90 Day Fiancé star told his wife. “That’s what makes my life so amazing.”
“You haven’t tried anything since I’ve known you!” Tania yelled in response.
“I don’t want to be a structured person,” Syngin exclaimed. “Hell, no.”
Syngin’s family advised her to calm down as the argument escalated
As Tania and Syngin’s fight escalated, Syngin’s dad became frustrated with Tania’s shouting and interruptions.
“I’m talking to him now,” Syngin’s dad told Tania when she cut him off. Later, he asked Tania to “give them a gap” to speak and to “step down.”
Syngin’s mom, Charmain, also warned Tania not to be too controlling or harsh with her son. “At the end of the day, it’s his choice,” she said, adding later: “I feel Tania’s been also a bit too hard now.”
Tears rolled down Tania’s face as she exclaimed in frustration, “That’s why I feel like I’m not being heard or appreciated…I don’t care if you take your time, but have some f*cking direction.”
But her husband said he wasn’t going to do anything except out of his own free will. “For me, my direction is the way the universe is pointing me,” the 90 Day Fiancé star asserted. “I’m free for the wind.”
Syngin’s dad said the couple had ‘a lot of compromising to do’ if they wanted to make things work
Finally, Tania stalked off when the fight got too heated for her liking. She even wondered if she and Syngin would reach a point of no return, when the marriage simply couldn’t continue.
“When is unfair for me to give up, and when is it unfair for me to keep waiting?” the 90 Day Fiancé star wondered aloud, adding that she’d already been waiting for Syngin to find direction for two years.
Syngin apologized for the fight to his shocked family. His father told 90 Day Fiancé producers that Tania was going about things the wrong way if she wanted to win Syngin over.
“Tania is a forceful girl. She knows what she wants,” Syngin’s father said. “She’ll put Syngin in his place. But Syngin won’t be put in his place unless necessary…Obviously, they’ve got a lot of compromising to do.”
“Your wife said a lot now,” Syngin’s dad quipped after Tania’s sudden exit.
“Yeah, as usual,” Syngin grumbled in response.
“She went a bit too far now,” his mother complained.
“Welcome to married life,” his dad quipped, trying to lighten the mind.
But Syngin’s face turned somber. “I’m not gonna be married if it’s like this,” the 90 Day Fiancé star said—leaving his family looking stunned and concerned at the revelation.
