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Carrie Fisher didn’t have a close relationship with her father, singer Eddie Fisher, growing up. But they did spend some time together, as the Star Wars actor has recounted in her memoirs. Learn about one comment Eddie made to Carrie when she was an adolescent and a request of his that came many years later.

Carrie Fisher’s dad, Eddie Fisher, left their family

Eddie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds with their daughter Carrie Fisher in 1957.
Eddie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds with their daughter Carrie Fisher in 1957. | Hulton Archive/Getty Images

Carrie grew up largely without her father. He and her mother, Debbie Reynolds, married the year before she was born. They divorced in 1959 when she was just a few years old. Eddie left Reynolds for Elizabeth Taylor in what would become one of the biggest celebrity scandals of all time.

Rather than her dad, Carrie spent most of her childhood with her mom, her younger brother, Todd, and her mom’s second husband, Harry Karl. Though she grew up in Beverly Hills not far from where her father lived, Carrie wrote in her memoir Shockaholic that they weren’t close during her formative years.

He commented on her body when she was young

Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher
Debbie Reynolds with Carrie Fisher in 1972 | Dove/Evening Standard/Getty Images

In the book, Carrie recalled a specific incident that occurred when she “was about 13.” She notes that the two didn’t have profound conversations. So she was surprised when “he turned to me quite casually and said, ‘I see you’re developing breasts.'” “Naturally I didn’t really know how to respond to this,” Carrie wrote.

“Maybe it would have been different if he’d been…a more present sort of parent,” she added. Given the circumstances, Carrie wrote, “it was awkward, to say the least.” In fact, this led to an extended absence. “After the developing breasts talk, I think there was a seven-year gap where, instead of merely having no relationship, we had no relationship at all.”

Fisher later took care of her dad before his death

Carrie Fisher and Eddie Fisher
Carrie Fisher and Eddie Fisher | Ron Galella Collection via Getty Images

Carrie and Eddie reconnected when she was in her 20s. They remained in touch, but their relationship truly deepened when their roles reversed in the latter years of his life. “By the end, it turned out that the overseeing of my father’s care had ultimately fallen to me,” she wrote.

Rather than being resentful, Carrie said she’d “come to be very grateful for this fumble.” And it wasn’t transactional. “We both knew I was under no obligation to arrange and oversee his care,” she wrote. “Whatever I did for him was because I wanted to. Not as some kind of payback that, as my dear old doting dad, was his due. “

The strange request Eddie had for his daughter

Eddie Fisher and Carrie Fisher
(L-R): Eddie Fisher and Carrie Fisher in 1983. | Bettmann / Contributor
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However, Eddie did have an unusual request — one so uncomfortable Carrie said, “it took a few weeks for him to express.” “My father confided in me that there was something he wanted to do before his life was over,” she wrote. “He didn’t have a bucket list as it turned out. What he did have was a bucket wish.”

Though he was 82 when he died, the five-times married (and then-widowed) man told his daughter he wanted “one last romp” — as in, a sexual encounter. “He’d devoted his entire life to getting laid, sacrificing everything he’d ever had to it—his career, his fortune, and basically any real, lasting relationship,” Carrie wrote, explaining why she wasn’t surprised.