Jennifer Lopez Revealed How Ben Affleck Was the Perfect Father Figure for Her Kids
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck both know what it’s like to be parents. So when they married, their relationship also meant blending their marriages. Here’s what Lopez thought of Affleck being a potential role model for her kids.
How Jennifer Lopez’s kids felt about Ben Affleck
For Lopez, there were a few major differences between dating Affleck in the 2000s and the 2020s. Unlike in their younger years, both the “On the Floor” singer and the Gone Girl star had kids from different marriages this time.
Lopez shared twins with Marc Anthony, whereas Affleck had three kids with ex-wife Jennifer Garner. In the earlier stages of her relationship with Affleck, Lopez complimented Garner’s ability to collaborate when it came to blending their families. She was also hopeful that her kids would grow close with Affleck as time went on.
“The transition is a process that needs to be handled with so much care,” Lopez once told Vogue. “They have so many feelings. They’re teens. But it’s going really well so far. What I hope to cultivate with our family is that his kids have a new ally in me and my kids have a new ally in him, someone who really loves and cares about them but can have a different perspective and help me see things that I can’t see with my kids because I’m so emotionally tied up.”
It seemed Lopez’s kids eventually did warm up to Affleck. On Today, the Atlas actor couldn’t help but gush about how much of a good father her partner was.
“They love Ben,” she said. “He’s a wonderful, wonderful father, and father figure to them as well. Because he has his own three beautiful children, and then there’s us. He’s fantastic. He really steps up to the challenge of what that is and what that means, and they love him. They love him, and they appreciate him. And so do I.”
How Ben Affleck’s and Jennifer Lopez’s kids are allegedly handling the divorce
Affleck’s and Lopez’s expanded family wouldn’t last long. After the two officially broke up, one would think that meant their kids would their separate ways as well. However, certain sources have claimed the children aren’t taking their parents’ divorce too hard.
According to the People, Lopez has also decided to maintain contact with some of Affleck’s kids. In contrast, the insider alleged Affleck minimized his relationship with Lopez’s.
“The fact that he has not seen her kids in a long time, it’s like he left, but she is especially close to his kids,” the source said.
How Jennifer Lopez would describe her and Ben Affleck’s parenting style
Lopez didn’t consider herself to be too strict of a parent, allowing her kids enough freedom to explore the world alongside her.
“I’m a little more laid back. You know, the word would be gypsy-ish. We travel the world, me and my kids. We give them their space. I feel like, ‘I’m here. I love you,’” Lopez once told ET.
It was a parenting style she felt she had in common with her ex.
“We’re not disciplinary in a really tough, aggressive way. That’s not our style,” she added.
As far as raising them went, Lopez was interested in guiding her kids by example. Growing up in the Bronx, the former In Living Color Fly Girl worked relentlessly to enjoy the success she has today. If there was one lesson she hoped her kids learned, it was the belief that everything they wanted in life was within reach.
“I try to do that more as I’ve gotten older and grown up a bit and I want them to know that there’s nothing that they can’t accomplish, that they are very limitless,” she said. “That is a real thing and if you believe that you can accomplish anything in your life and I hope they’re getting that from me.”
