Jennifer Lopez Wanted Marc Anthony to Fight for Their Marriage During Their Divorce
Jennifer Lopez’s marriage to Marc Anthony lasted a long time before their surprising divorce in 2014. They both felt going their separate ways was the right thing. However, Lopez hoped Anthony might change his mind until the very end.
Jennifer Lopez wanted Marc Anthony to fight for their relationship
As is the case for many divorced couples, Lopez would’ve preferred not to break up with Anthony in the first place. But the “Jenny From the Block” singer didn’t have the same level of stamina or patience when it came to her personal life that she did with her work.
“When I come to work, I never get tired. But with personal failures, I have thought, ‘This is too hard,’” Lopez said in a 2016 interview with W.
Still, Lopez stuck with Anthony as long as she could despite having doubts about their marriage early on. The two married in 2004 and were together for seven years before splitting up in 2011. Within that time, the two started a family together, giving birth to twins. However, their family life only made it harder for Lopez to walk away from the relationship.
“When my marriage [to Anthony] ended, it was not easy to find forgiveness,” Lopez said. “It wasn’t the dream that I had hoped for, and it would’ve been easier to fan the flames of resentment, disappointment, and anger. But Marc is the father of my children, and that’s never going away. So I have to work to make things right. And that is, by far, the hardest work I do.”
But amid their break-up, it seemed that Lopez hoped Anthony might try to save their relationship one last time. In her memoir True Love, the singer recalled the difficult meeting she had with Anthony when they decided to part ways. During their conversation, a part of her hoped Anthony would call off their breakup. But he did the opposite.
“We sat down together. ‘This is not working. You know it’s not working. We’re not living like a family, and I don’t see how things are going to change. Neither of us is happy, and the kids are wondering what’s going on. I think we should move on with our lives,’” she wrote. “Deep down, I still wanted him to put up a fight for our family. But instead, he said, ‘Okay.’ On July 15, 2011, we made the public announcement that we were going to divorce. Hardest. Day. Ever.”
Marc Anthony was allegedly very controlling when it came to Jennifer Lopez
According to a couple of insiders, one of the main reasons Anthony and Lopez broke up might’ve been because of his alleged controlling nature. Lopez’s stylist Phillip Bloch claimed she initially liked Anthony’s strong attitude. But after seven years of marriage, it seemed she reached her limit regarding the singer’s behavior.
“Marc is very controlling. In the beginning, she liked that because he stood up to her, and in the early days he was very much in love with her and she was with him,” Bloch once claimed to Daily Mail.
So when Bloch heard other sources claim Anthony’s controlling nature caused his and Lopez’s split, Bloch wasn’t all that surprised. One of the ways the “I Need To Know” singer allegedly tried to control Lopez was by deciding her wardrobe. Anthony wasn’t too comfortable with Lopez’s sex-symbol status, which was a part of the actor’s brand.
“He likes her to dress in a demure, ‘wife’ style. He hated the fact that she was a sex symbol,” the source said.
Another source shared that Lopez’s relationship with Anthony often went around in circles.
“They would get into heated, horrible fights. Then they would also go through times where they were extremely loving and romantic,” the source said. “It was a roller coaster with them from the very beginning.”
Lopez and Anthony haven’t given any specifics about their divorce. So it’s unclear how true the rumors are. Anthony himself hinted that the reasons for their split might not have been as dramatic.
“I’ll tell you that it wasn’t something sensationalistic happening,” Anthony once told Nightline (via NBC Bay Area). “It was a realization on both our parts. So you know it wasn’t shocking. These things happen. It was a decision that we made jointly.”
