Melissa Rivers Says Mom Joan Rivers ‘Would Yell at Me for Not Pulling the Trigger Earlier’ on Baby
Comedian Melissa Rivers thinks the window may have closed on any chance of welcoming another baby and believes mother Joan Rivers would have urged her to have moved faster.
Rivers was on the fence about expanding her family and at age 54, she thinks her age, combined with being a single mother is creating odds she may not want to bet against.
Melissa Rivers thinks mom Joan Rivers would think it is too late for a baby
Rivers appeared on the Behind the Velvet Rope with David Yontef which is when she discussed baby plans. “She would yell at me for not pulling the trigger earlier,” Rivers said about what her mother would say. She added, “She would say stop thinking. Just do. Yeah, because I will paralyze myself, overthinking things everything in life.”
“I should have done it six years ago, but I just wasn’t in the place,” Rivers admitted. “And I had too much going on and juggling too much, too many things and dealing with my mother’s passing and the estate and this and getting my son through it and getting work back on track.”
“So you go, OK this is not the right time again,” she continued. “I really feel strongly that it has to be the situation that’s going to be right.”
What happens to the baby later in her life, Melissa Rivers wondered
Rivers also thought about what it would mean to give a special needs child a comfortable life. But even that idea came with strings.
“I mean, even if they were like, well, you could give a special needs child, a wonderful life. Absolutely. But what happens when I’m gone?” she questioned. “Is that fair? I’m not 30, You know, I’m not 40. Like, is that right? Are you going to suddenly, you know, what is the average life expectancy, like 70 something, you know? Or do you want to leave a 21-year-old or whatever?”
“I can’t do the math in my head that this early,” she joked. But added, “Don’t you think that’s the right way to think about it? That it’s not about me. How does that affect my son’s life?”
She isn’t totally ruling out the notion of a baby … maybe
“A lot of people told me how incredibly difficult it would be for me to do. I’m over 50. I’m a single person … And I’m sure I could make it work, but I’ve really come to the conclusion that I’m not sure it would be fair to a child. You know, I’m not a hundred percent sure that it would be fair. Am I completely out of the market? No,” she said.
“But I don’t want to…people are like, oh well you could do special needs and they’re giving them a wonderful life,” she continued. “And I do think about that stuff, but I also think, is it really fair? Is it fair? That’s what it came down to. And everyone else, I was also told how difficult it would be for me to do.”
And added, “You have to check yourself and put someone else’s needs in front of what you or someone else, in front of what you want. Do I still want it? 100%. Do I think is the right thing to do. I’m not sure anymore. And believe me, I’ve cried a lot at nights with that realization.”
