‘The Bachelor’: Victoria F. Explains Why She’s Not Good at Communicating in Relationships

Last week was fantasy suites on Peter Weber’s season of The Bachelor. Much of the pilot’s season has revolved around his dramatic relationship with controversial contestant Victoria Fuller. But their fantasy suite date was actually pretty tame.

In an interview Weber did with former bachelor Nick Viall on his podcast, “The Viall Files,” a few weeks ago, he said he eventually learned why Victoria F. “ran hot a lot of the time.”

“Victoria F. was someone who ran hot a lot of the time. But I knew, deep down, there was a reason for that. And you guys will see that reason. And I knew that if I kept digging long enough I’d kind of understand. So, yeah, I’m happy I did,” he said.

Why Victoria F. ‘runs hot’

It seems, during fantasy suites, Weber and Bachelor Nation learned that reason. She says she is the way she is because of a previous relationship she was in.

Going into the dinner portion of their date, Weber told the camera he knows his relationship with Victoria F. hasn’t been easy.

“This is for sure the most tested relationship that I have here. I’m not necessarily mad about that because through those issues I’ve learned a lot about her,” he said.

He began their dinner with a toast: “Here’s to you and I showing so much fight and not giving up when it could have been very easy for us to do that.”

Victoria F. started off by telling Weber she wanted to talk about communication.  

“I feel like we need to have more of a conversation, obviously, about kind of what we touched on earlier. We can talk about communication. Because, like, communication is probably, like, the biggest thing in a relationship. So I want you to know the why. I know you know how I am but I need you to know why I am the way that I am,” she said.

“And I think it all kind of stems from my past relationship I was in. It was like three and a half years long, and I was never really asked about my feelings in it. So when you do ask me, I, like, get defensive. And I’m like, ‘Wait, why is he asking me that? That must mean that there’s something wrong.’ But really, it’s just because you, like, want to know. And, um, that took me like a minute to realize. So I want you to tell me, like, everything I need to give you. Spell it out,” she continued.

Weber told her there’s nothing she needs to work on when they’re just hanging out and spending time together. What she needs to work on is conflict resolution.  

“What was that from that past relationship that did make you this way with me right now?” he asked.

“In the past, like, I guess I didn’t feel good enough for him. I don’t know,” she said, starting to get defensive.

“You do know,” Weber urged.  

“No I don’t. I’m trying,” she said, obviously upset.  

“I’m not saying it was right, but there’s a reason you didn’t feel good enough,” he pressed on.  

“I don’t know what you want,” she said.

But Weber assured her he only had good intentions–”I want you to truly feel like you deserve all the love in the world.” 

Peter Weber doesn’t want easy

“I appreciate our relationship. I don’t necessarily want something to be so easy all the time and so monotone and not challenging,” Weber said at the end of their dinner.

Fans have voiced their concerns about Weber’s relationship with Victoria F., calling it toxic and manipulative.

We only have the “Women Tell All,” and finale to go. We’ll have to wait and see if Weber goes with his “challenging” relationship, or something a little more “monotone.”

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